Abusive marriages can work both ways. I’ll not go into details.
I got out of insanity #1 when the kids were 17 and 18 and there were no kids for insanity #2. At least the second one was explainable by a childhood incident.
I met my wife on Match.com at age 54 and it has turned out just like the ending to a romance novel. See my article Stereotypes and Prejudices Everywhere for the story about romance novels.
She never thought that she would get married again.
My ad said: “I am not looking for a maid, cook, laundress, dishwasher or sex object. I’m looking for a partner…”. Mine worked perfectly. Hopefully, yours will too.
The most important thing is to start. It will take time and you to be ready. Never give up.