How about you — do you have over a million dollars in the bank for retirement? Or a large pension on top of Social Security?
If you don’t, you can’t afford to help him with his divorce. He can’t afford the SUV! He has to learn sometime.
Both of you should read this “Saving for Retirement and Beyond, Stress Free, starting at ANY Age, even if You are Retired” unless you both plan to work after retirement. He may not be so lucky.