I hope you find someone that makes sure that orange Tic Tacs are in the kitchen drawer when you run out, or notices that the tea pot is nearly empty and make a new one so it is ready when you go to get another cup.
Seemingly little things make a big difference.
You have seen the traits of a bully, so know what to avoid. James Knight saying that he was an asshole was an insult to assholes. They at least have a function.
Good luck and don’t settle for less.