I went through the same thing, but it doesn't seem like the same lifetime. It seems my work life started at age 34 and personal life started at age 53. Before that is like reading a story out of a magazine - no connection or feeling.

Here is how things are now:

==> The Greatest Compliment You Can Pay Your Sweetheart

--> It’s the compliment everyone sees. Actions speak louder than words.

https://medium.com/the-ascent/the-greatest-compliment-you-can-pay-your-sweetheart-2956fcd9700f?source=friends_link&sk=8bee2f80154ff1e52607d1b96c94c8d3

Good luck.