My first question is “Do you know what you want and need in a partner?” Write it down. It may take weeks to finish.
I didn’t make that discovery until I was about 50. Then, I started dating my ex-boss, who the engineers said “was built like Dolly Parton and had the brains of Einstein.”
We were not a good match, but I needed someone who was smart. My future wife’s ad in Match.com said “Intelligence is important.”
We have been married for 18 years and every day is a perfect day.