Romance is certainly not overrated, when it works.
When I was 54, I met my wife on Match.com. It took me that long to learn what a perfect match for me was.
Her ad said “Intelligence is important.” She was just looking for someone to do things with.
I invited her to the theater. Nobody ever did that. Then she learned that I had season tickets to the Broadway Series, Musical Series, and the Houston Texans.
I overheard her tell a friend rather loudly on the phone “My whole life has changed!” Well, so had mine.
When we got married, someone asked her at work if she was going on a honeymoon. She said, “Every day is a honeymoon.” It still is 18 years later.
My article about a perfect day “The Challenge: Write an Article on a Given Topic in 4 hours” shows just how much. Nearly every day is that way.
Hang in there. You will make it.